LELAKI SUKA TINDAS WANITA?
What a wonderful evening to begin with, as I bring up my cup of hot chocolate closer to my dark-red colored lip. I take a sip and in a meantime I log-on to my Facebook account. “Whoa! 25 notifications!” One notification catch my eyes as Asyraf Khairil had mentioned me in one of his post in our Facebook Group. “Hmm, a title for our homework article! Let’s see what’s mine.”
….. ‘Chauvinisme Lelaki Punca Penindasan Wanita’ ?????
“What the… All I know is Char Kuey Tiaw! Hahaha”
So, from where do I start? Chauvinism is a prejudice belief in the superiority of one’s own gender, group or kind. To put it differently, male chauvinists think that women are inferior to them, especially intellectually. So, what is he like, this type of man? Typically he wants to dominate a woman and expects her to submit. His world-view is a very traditional one and he behaves in an exaggerated manly way. It may become obvious to us now that this attitude can easily cause problems with women.
To get a wider view on how male chauvinist might act, let’s see some cases.
CASE # 1: In any arguments between husband & wife.
Husband: You should listen to what I’m saying. Once I say so, be it.
Husband: Are you going to defy my words? I’m a leader in this family. My decision is final. And besides, male is responsible in making decision anyway. As for you woman, do what you are best in. Making coffee, ironing clothes, house-chores, laundry.
CASE # 2: In a street
Man: Sir, may you sign this petition for me?
Sir: What is it about?
Man: I’m thinking on banning women from playing sports. If you are with me, just sign it. They are not supposed to play sports anyway in the first place.
Sir: I’m on it. Where do I sign?
There are still many more examples and what’s mentioned above maybe only a mental-side of it. There are physical-side for example women violation, and also sexual-side for example rape. All of these are the implications related close enough with male chauvinism. Gentle nature of women may be misused by some men to fulfill his desire. It’s more than enough to prove that there are male chauvinists in this whole world. Back to the question, is it a factor for oppression of women? I’ll not purely agree if it says that it is the only one. Sure there is another reason for it. But factually speaking, these kind of behaviors serve most. Based on the research conducted by Women’s Aid Organization on 1992, 39% of Malaysian Women was reported to be a victim of women’s oppression (physically, mentally or sexually). And the number increases in 1995 based on police reports, there were 1409 cases had been keyed-in. A 388% increases in 1997 was so abrupt making the number of cases became 5477 in that year. Just to be clear, in that year, Domestic Violence Act was fully enforced but still, look at the number. I’m pretty sure it’s still rising now. (Sigh) What’s going on in our world?
Let’s return to our religion, Islam and ask ourselves. Did Islam teach us all these? I want you all to open your eyes and realize that this issue is one of a negative stigma that used by the West to address Islam as a religion that doesn’t respect the women, a religion that suppresses women’s freedom, an unjust religion. As a result, feminism arrives, seeking equality for female & freedom of women. What’s more hurtful is that, there are some of us that were purely Muslim, got influenced by their opinions, their voices and then oppose what’s that purely taught by Islam. This so called “equality in gender” should not exist actually, should be stopped and come on all (guys and girls), let’s return to Islam, really understand it and deepen our knowledge about it. Soon you will realize that originally Islam is really a religion that respects women and justice for everyone. Doesn’t matter you are a man or a woman, Islam never treat us differently.
You know what, before Islam arrives, woman was served no different as an animal. The Greek served woman only for his lust and also the Romans gave the authority for the father or the husband to easily sell his daughter or his wife. It happened all over the world even the Arabs had buried their innocent female baby alive just because she was born a girl. This is well told in the Holy Quran, in An-Nahl (verses 58-59):
“And when one of them is informed of [the birth of] a female, his face becomes dark, and he suppresses grief. He hides himself from the people because of the ill of which he has been informed. Should he keep it in humiliation or bury it in the ground? Unquestionably, evil is what they decide.”
Soon, Islam arrived, bringing its light, bright enough to enlighten the darkness and al-Quran that was given upon and delivered by our beloved Prophet, Muhammad s.a.w had saved us from all violence, guaranteed human rights without exception & brought peace in the world. Allah had taught us how to treat a woman:
“O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.” An-Nisa (verse 19)
Dr. Abdul Qadir Syaibah says, “That was then in Islamic law, women are respected, cannot be inherited, not halal detained by force, men are commanded to be nice to them, the husband claimed to treat them with kindness and patience with their morals.” (Huquq al Mar`ah fi al Islam: 10-11)
So, for all the guys out there, stop being so dominant. Respect women in all matters. This male chauvinism must be stopped at once. I’m stating this statement not that I’m defending any side of gender. I’m not saying that woman are all-the-time right, must be followed all the time. There are times that, for example in any argument or whatever, we know that woman is surely on the wrong side. At that time, we can toughen-up and be firm with our opinion and defend and argue it with manners that Islam had taught us. Never harm them at any way possible. Behave ourselves, and remember to learn how to respect a woman, to decreas our ego. Simply try to build it up with our closest surrounding, our mother, sisters, friends, college-mates, work-mates and so on. Do remember one thing, it’s true that Allah had created us as being stronger, more powerful, more dependable & many more. So please use it in the way that Allah needs us to. Not by dominating woman blatantly, violating woman as we like and treat them like they’re nothing.
And also, for all the girls out there. Do protect yourself. Remember that you are the Jewel of Islam. Know Islam deeply and realize that Islam did nothing but just to all of you. Speaking of jewel, do you think that it was simply placed on any plastic bags, on the floor unprotected? If you think so, tell me which jewelry store had done that. A jewel must be placed in a glass wall, not allowed to even be put a fingerprint on it unless it was sold legally.
“O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.” Al-Ahzab (verse 59)
Behave yourself in front of the man who is not your husband, don’t socialize with man exaggeratedly, try not to make yourself be noticed in public such as by wearing something eye-catching, by putting a nose-pleasing fragrant and so on. All of these had been designed to protect woman.
For all of us, please be the best as we can be and show the world how beautiful Islam is. Maybe by our behavior & our attitude under the Islamic reference, the world can see Islam differently. We can do it. Put Islam in our heart first, by Allah’s will, He will put Islam in this world.
Fuhh, I hope what my writing is understandable. With my limitation of knowledge and words, I’m sure that what was displayed in this writing was too far from perfect. But still, take as many benefit as possible and do correct me if I’m wrong as I’m also still in learning progress of learning Islam and apply it in my life.
Zulkifli Ab. Rahim
Universiti Ain Shams
PERUBATAN Cawangan Ain Shams 2015/2016
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